Don't dismiss this....it might be just what you need?

We all read and hear about different ideas and decided instantly whether we had any interest or not. What I'm thinking about is when we dismiss an idea or a thought that might acually been good for us.

I read a lot of books and frequently I will think of someone who I think in my sphere of influence would benefit from me sharing my discovery.

It was interesting to me that the one's that I thought that would benefit from it the most were the one's I know would be least interested in watching, reading or even talking about it. It's much the same when you go to a seminar, you look around and see who is there and who is not? Yep, those that need it aren't there and those who are already on the right path are there.

By contrast those that I felt needed it the least were the one's who jumped right on something that sounded interesting to them. They saw the immediate benefit not just for them but for others as well. This has me thinking about what I might have dismissed in my life that could have had major benefit to me? Now obviously its healthy to dismiss some things like recreational drugs for instance. But perhaps we would all benefit if we were just a little more open minded and were not so quick to dismiss what we don't initially understand.

Here is the thought...what if I'm wrong? Just contemplate for a moment all the good things you missed because you thought you had all the answers?

Then there are those who dismiss the ideas of others and by doing so crush their enthusiasm. The damage done by belittling someone else's dreams can be devastating. Here's what Mark Twain had to say about that...

Secret to likeability

I'll skip past the obvious stuff like;  take a regular shower, brush your teeth and don't be rude. I found 100's of examples of the obvious, but here at 'Happy School' we're into unique and of course easy.

What do you think is the fastest, easiest and surest guarantee that you will always be viewed as likeable? That's the question I've been pondering. That question had me stumped for a few days. But then in a moment of sudden insight, the answer was revealed. I almost wet my pants with excitement, it was that good.

I Guru Eduardo was now in possession of a life changing inspiration. The gods were on my side. Not only did I discover the secret of likeability but I had in my possession the secret to a fun, easy and abundant life. No point writing, reading and researching anymore....I had the answer! So what to do with it?

"for you my friends  I will offer this one time opportunity. For the incredible low, low price of just 4 equal payments of $9.95 (plus tax) it is all yours"

Whoa, got carried away there with the brillance of my discovery! After careful review and a return to sanity I now will reveal all for the incredible price of FREE. I do have one caveat that I must insist on....as you read the secret, promise me you'll let it perculate in your brain for a few days. I'm confident if you do that you will come agree with me, it is brilliant. Here is the secret to likeability and to success....

"put others first and everthing becomes fun, easy and abundant"

Help others get what they want and they will be only to happy to help you get what you want. I guarantee that they will like you as well! The more you help others the more others will want you to succeed and be happy. Multiply your success, happiness and likeability by helping as many as you can. Consider it an honor to be in a position to help when you the opportunity presents itself. Call it Karma or cause and effect the truth is, it works perfectly.

This is just another of those cosmic jokes. God has a terrific sense of humor. He puts everything right in front of us, makes it really obvious then sits back and laughs at our foolishness until we finally get it. This is just another one of his little tricks like....the more you give, the more you get. But hey, we're smarter than the average monkey and we figured it out!

All along my path, I figured it was all about me. I was focused on figuring out how to make me happy and successful. And dang if it doesn't turn out that I was wrong, it's not about me. It's about helping others. I help them get what they want and they help me get what I want. Simple...beautiful!

ADDED BONUS: Now, I'm just so damn likeable (might have to work on that humble thing next)

How to be attractive

You've probably heard expressions like; he's a happy or optimistic fool. Ok, maybe it's just me! However, the media certainly has bias for painting the happiest people as being 'a little simple or slow'. The kindest description might be of a person who is naive. So what is the reality?

Even writing about happiness can draw negative comments. I've been told more than once that I'm blowing happiness (where the sun doesn't shine) at people. Makes you wonder why it is that happy people can so annoy others?

In the field of Positive Phychology, studies are proving just the opposite is true. Optimistic and happy people are found to be:

* better at performing in work, school and even in sports
* less prone to depression
* have fewer health related problem
* experience better relationships with friends and family
* more successful in reaching long term goals
* they are found to be more attractive by everyone

No wonder happy people walk around with a goofy grin....they know something the others don't (well actually a lot that the others don't).

Even if all this hadn't been scientifically proven, I think I'd sooner be just a little simplier and be happy then be a little smarter and have to live in a grumpy head!


P.S. If you stare at my 'goofy grin' long enough, you just might start to see how much Brad Pitt and I look alike! What....you didn't read the part about happy people, being more attractive?

The 5 minute success formula

"what I am about to reveal is how in just 5 minutes you can achieve incredible things"


I really love making statements like that. Sounds like one of those late night commercials. Now if you'll just send me four equal payments of only $99 you will have all you ever dreamed of in just 5 lousy minutes. Ok, back to reality....


This is reality...in just 5 minutes you achieve incredible things! I've made this interesting little discovery. I want to talk about  two parts of your brain. The first is called, the amygdala region. Sounds impressive, and neither of us will remember the name, so let's just call it 'the go' part of your brain.


The go is designed for quick response. It will send blood rushing to your limbs so that you can make a quick response. For instance you see a commercial for a big fat juicy burger dripping with heart stopping fat and a super sized order of fries and the go says....must have now. The go is quick thinking and is in no way contemplative or reasoning. The go is very important, like for instance when you see an insurance salesman, the go moves your feet quickly as possible to the other side of street. No thinking required, just escape. The go is good, sometimes.


The second part (and much larger) part of our brain, I want to discuss is the in the frontal lobe, it is our know system. The know system is slow and contemplative. It is emotionally neutral. It is designed for thriving and not just surviving like the go system.

Ok, now let's get to the cool stuff like, how to use this knowledge to my advantage? Glad you asked. Let's imagine that you want to do one of the following; lose weight or quit smoking. Your go system, gets an urge to smoke or eat a piece of chocolate cake. The go fires off the thought, go for it and be quick about doing it. The go is in a hurry to fulfill your desire.

But in just 5 minutes we can shut down the 'go' and fire up the 'know'.


Here's how it works. Tell yourself...ok, I can have what I want but I will wait for 5 minutes to do it. The go is very impatient and by making it wait just 5 minutes it will give way to your know system. And your know system will start reasoning with you. Giving you thoughts like; I know that's not good for me, I don't really need that right now, or my health is more important than a stupid cigarette or that damn chocolate cake. The know is the smart part of your brain!

So by waiting just 5 minutes, we can put the know in charge and you have a very good chance that your know will win the day. Isn't that simple?

I've also discovered another way to use my 5 minute system. Let's suppose you are like me and are a procrastinator. Then just decide that you will start the task and you only need to do it for 5 minutes. That's all just 5 minutes. Here is what is likely to happen; first, you either do 5 minutes work and quit, or you just feel like doing a little extra once you get going. Either way you get something done and start moving forward. More times than not you end up doing more work. I've tried this and actually cleaned the bathroom!

Go ahead and print off the card I made above and carry around with you. Think of something you have been procrastinating on and commit yourself to just 5 minutes of effort. Take my word for it you will be surprised!


Or beat back those bad habits by just delaying 5 minutes. You can do it. Let the know system operate your life.  Your New Year's resolutions that have been kicking your butt in past years will become childs play to you.

 

Guru Eduardo


P.S. This message is just for men! Do not, I repeat do not let women see this article or they will be saying things like......come on honey  just do 5 minutes of cleaning in the bathroom, that's all. Don't say I didn't warn you!

Laughter is there nothing it can't do?

"Rock a bye lady

you just paid more

so happy and relaxed

inside  of my store"

Ok, I'll admit to being a pretty crappy song writer but be careful about your purchases when you are as my little ditty says...happy and relaxed.   The reason is that when you feel that way you will pay more for a product or service. 

When researchers tested very relaxed participants as to what they would pay for a product or service they found that those who were relaxed over-valued items by on average 15%.   This was compared to participants in the study who felt equally pleasant but not as relaxed.  

Here's why....in a relaxed environment the brain does not perceive a threat.   This alows for thinking more about the positive benefits of a product or service.  It's then easy to think at an abstract level about how the product or service might be used to your advantage.  

A less relaxed person is more likely to focus on the features and measure them against the price.  Thus they are more critical in their purchase decision.  They are on guard against what they might deem as any sales pressure.   The relaxed person because they feel no threat are open to suggestions.  

So Guru how do I take this to an even higher level in my business?

Glad you asked grasshopper.    First, let me ask you a question.    When are you most relaxed?   If you said, when I am laughing you win the big prize.   The big prize is more sales, better persuasion and more success.   Pretty good prize huh?

Now you know that if you can make them laugh the door to endless  opportunities is wide open.   Boring kills sales.   Laughter is directly proportional to success.   And this my friends is your big advantage because while others are trying to win over customers with professionalism, superior product or lower price you will be laughing all the way to easy street.

A decent boldness

"years from now it won't be the things that you did that you will regret the most, it will be the things you didn't do"
If you are anything like me, I'll bet there are many instances when you look back on your life and say to yourself....dang I wish I'd done that!

So what keeps us from doing the things we know we should or we know we would like to do? Mostly fear, sometimes procrastination and many times we are just a little too timid. The cure.....a decent boldness!

I say decent boldness as opposed cockiness or arrogance. A decent boldness is a reasoned decision with a slight risk taking element to it. And I say boldness as opposed to using a word like courage. Courage is a difficult word. It brings back associations for a lot of people of things like when you were bullied as a child. Sometimes you can be a little lacking in courage and still find some boldness.

The good news is that boldness kicks the crap out of fear and procrastination.

Here are just a few examples of ways you can use boldness to your benefit;

*speak out when you feel an injustice
*take the first step to start a friendship
*share a thought or idea
*ask for help
*flirt
*take a chance
*try something new
*ask for a raise
*ask for forgiveness
*start something new
*make a suggestion
*write a comment on a blog
*start a business

The list could on forever, a decent boldness is all we need to change our lives for the better. And as Virgil said...fortune belongs to the bold! We can find great fortune if we have the courage and character to make bold decisions.

"It's an exciting time for those with a decent boldness"

Over a hundred years ago Goethe wrote: "whatever you can do, or dream, you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it" Smart guy.

Now if I might be so bold as to ask a favor of you...please pass this article on to someone else who might benefit from it. Just hit the f button below....thanks!

Deprogramming

"we are born into greatness and then programmed into mediocrity"


I had a conversation with a friend this morning in which we discussed among other things, the way we are programmed first as kids and then as adults. We reached the conclusion, that it is no wonder we have so many messed up minds on this planet. The programming we usually receive is negative and very limiting.


"we are not born stupid or ignorant you have to watch a heck of a lot TV to get that way"

Driving home I pondered what it would be like if we could find a grumpy negative person and kidnap them for the purpose of deprogramming. You know that kind of person who is always complaining about some injustice and yet does little or nothing about it. Sure it's illegal to kidnap someone against their will but it would be for their own good?

"a positive attitude may not solve all of your problems, but it will annoy enough people to be worth the effort" (Herm Albright)

The purpose of the deprogramming session would be to make them aware that they have been running on automatic (or even worse operating on someone else's thoughts and not their own). To make them conscious that life can be fun, easy, and over-flowing with abundance. By the time we were done with them they would leave with a big goofy grin and be laughing and dancing their way down the street.


"light travels faster than sound, that is why some people appear bright until they speak" (unknown)


They would become super positive people willing to take on any worthy challenge. And as new converts I think they would be trying to convince others of the merits of their new found happiness and if not, then recommend them for deprogramming as well.


Now that is what I call a great daydream!


P.S. I've even heard of people who were programmed to cheer for the New York Yankees and some to even cheer for the Toronto Maple Leafs......isn't that sad?