How to make the intelligent decison

Need to make a business decision?   Try out my seducers 4 way test.    I promise that you will make better decisions if you put it to the test.   

If you like this email me at edsemail@shaw.ca and ask for a copy and I'll email you back a high definition copy you can print off and keep as a reminder.  



Chewing gum makes you smarter

Did you know that chewing gum makes you smarter?   Ok, it only lasts for around 20 minutes but hey, some of us can use all the help we can get.  

I don't know who does this kind of research but here's what they found.  

*chewing gum improves memory, attention, reasoning skills and other mental abilities.

The only downside is that for some reason it only lasts about 20 minutes and then you go back to your normal level of smarts.   I've been thinking about this....hmmmm  we should only work in 20 minute stretches then take a 20 minute break.    Then another 20 minutes of brilliance and chewing....well you get the picture.   What's a boss going to say about that? 

But wait there's more...

Chewing gum has other benefits as well.   It lowers anxiety and reduces stress.  It also increases saliva in your mouth that fights bacteria.  

But wait there's more...

You know that guy with the bad breath?    NO....not me!   Anyway you don't have to offend him by telling him he has bad breath just give him some gum and tell him it will make him smarter!

So if you have a big test coming up or need a bright idea....get gum!   As for me my writing will be 20 minute bursts of brilliance from now on.

A sneaky seduction

So what if I told you that there is no need to work hard, sacrifice and delay gratification till some distant time in the future? What if I told you that your life was meant to be fun, easy and abundant?

What if I told you that asking hypothetical questions could influence how other people will act?

The way that you ask questions can be highly persuasive especially if the question starts with the words, ‘what if.’ Here is why, the brain process what was said like ‘what if’ isn’t even there. So people are processing your question as if it were fact according to recent research from the University of Alberta. Think about that?

So lets have some fun and run through a few examples of how you might use this sneaky seduction technique….

1) A realtor wants to get a listing on a home.

E.G. “What if I told you that I could get your home sold quicker and for more money by using our companies unique marketing system?”

Why it just might work?

If you made the statement without the ‘what if’ then the client might be thinking to herself…‘yeah right, that’s what they all say’. But if you precede the statement with ‘what if’ then the client first allows the information into her brain with out  resistance and wonders to herself how that may be possible? The realtor now has an open door to continue the persuasion because she is now considering it as possible.

2) You want a client to sign up for your weight loss program.

E.G. What if I told you that you could lose 20 lbs before Christmas and you could eat as much as you like?

Why it just might work?

Again it gets past the resistance by not phrasing it in a way that would be perceived as a sales pitch. The client starts to imagine it being possible to lose those 20 lbs by Christmas. Remember you haven’t directly asked for the sale you have just proposed a possibility. The clients response will dictate how you react next. If you’ve gained their interest in your ‘what if’ question the sale is half done.

3) A nervous young man wants to ask a girl out on a date.

E.G. What if I were to ask you to join me Saturday night for a movie?

Why it just might work?

First our nervous young man finds it an easier question to ask that question since it is only a possibility question and he won’t face the same rejection by asking a direct question like, ‘would you like to go to a movie with me on Saturday’. That would probably get him stuttering and stammering and appear unconfident. But because it’s only a ‘what if’ even if he gets a no it is a ton lot easier to take. On the other hand he gets by her immediate defences and she if only for moments starts to imagine going to the movie with our nervous young stud.

So will this work all of the time? No, of course not but it will work a lot of the time and that’s good enough to learn this sneaky little seduction method. Of course this will only work if your ’what if’ question is received as credible and plausible.

Now for something personal….

What if I told all you ladies that are reading this article that all women who meet me personally find me to be a handsome devil and totally irresitable?

No, your not buying that?….dang I should have kept my big mouth shut and never shared this stuff with you!

Pssst…..you’re probably thinking this is a pretty nifty idea, right? Then don’t you think it’s a good idea to take it for a spin? Play with some ’what if’ questions now and then go try them out. What if it becomes a habitual part of your presentations and makes your richer and skinner?

NOTE;    This is the first draft of an article for my next book...How To Seduce Business.   It would sure help if you left a comment and if you wanted to be really nice to me hit the f button below and share it with your facebook friends.    Thanks!

Givers, takers, fools and fakers

 

"You can always tell a true friend. When you've made a fool of yourself, she doesn't think you've done a pernament job"

If you were to ask me, what is the one principle to live by that will make your life fun, easy and abundant? I would say surround yourself with givers. Having friends who are givers is the cherry on top of life's meaning.

5 Benefits of having givers as friends (there are many more of course)

1. There is no such thing as it's my turn. No need to keep track of who did what because givers love giving.

2. Givers give off positive energy. Their positive energy lifts you up and makes you feel good about yourself.

3. Givers make you want to be a better person.

4. Givers are happy people and that happiness can be contagious.

5. Someone always has your back. Just knowing that when you stumble someone will put out a hand is very reasurring. If you are being criticised in your absence someone will defend you.

6. Having givers as friends means a life of pleasant surprises. You never know what will be given to you for no reason other than that you are loved. (OK I know that makes six but what the hey, I just felt like giving a little more)

Takers

Avoid these people like you would an unnecessary root canel. The first sign you are with a taker is that their conversation revolves around me me and me. No matter where the conversation goes they find a way to make it about themselves. They will use you and abuse you. They are self centered and immature . They believe that in order for them to succeed they need to take from others. These people are toxic to your happiness.

Fools

The fools are takers but don't know it. They may see themselves as givers but they suck the energy out of you. They may make you a supper but then they dump every morsel of their problems on your plate. These are people who as I said appear to be givers but are so negative that they are draining to be around.

Fakers

The fakers are the ones that calculate that if they give they will get something back. They only give because they think it will gain them something now or down the road. They will fool you but mostly they fool themselves.

What if I haven't been a giver but I want to change?

The answer is simple...give until it feels good

A test to see if you are enlightened?

"We can tell how evolved or enlightened someone is by how long they can sustain happiness without the aid of; drugs, television or shopping"

Ok, I was going to include alcohol but then I remembered the wise words of Ben Franklin.....'in wine there is wisdom, in beer there is freedom and in water there is bacteria'. Who am I to argue with Ben?

Cheers!

Guru Eduardo

Why we do stupid things?

"Normal people work twice as hard, make half as much and hardly have any fun at all"

Making changes seems to be one of the toughest things we ever do.    And yet as Einstien said...'to repeatedlly do the same thing and expect a different response is the definition of  insanity'. (or something like that).   Our futures are easily predictable by our examining our habits.   If they don't change neither do we. 

So why don't we change?   Why don't we see the obvious?   Why do conservatives remain conservatives and liberals remain liberals all of their lives despite evidence that it might be time to consider something new?   Why is it that we keep repeating patterns of behaviour despite the fact that it is obvious it isn't working?

"The stronger your belief the more intolerant you become of the beliefs of others"

Psychologists call it cognitive dissonance when we resist changing even when the evidence suggests we should do otherwise.   We don't like the feelings that come from anything that goes against what we've always believed or done.   That is when we start rationalizing rather being rational.   Or we try to critisize or mock in order to reduce our dissonance.  

It's like when a person smokes cigarettes.    Any rational person will know beyond doubt this is a self destructive behavior leading to very bad consequences.   So in order to reduce the dissonance they feel they deny smokings harmful effects, minimize it by saying...yes but it won't happen to me or by saying...well I could also be killed by being run over by a car.   Or most commonly by saying....I'm going to quit sometime in the near future (which they rarely do).

So then the question is how do we effect change in ourselves?

First by remaining open to the possibility that what you've always believed may not be right or true.  This is why I always tell myself....I have strong beliefs loosely held. 

Second by creating a plan for change.  And accepting that it may not be easy but it is possible.

Third by making small incremental changes.

Fourth by continuing each small  change until it becomes a habitual behaviour.

And finally once a new habit is established being protective of it.  Old habits are like bad ex-lovers, they have a way of sneaking back into your life if you are not vigilant.

Now its time to go take some of my own medicine and put this to practice on myself.  Wish me luck.



Smiling makes women look 3 years younger

If you are a woman....you will be walking around today with a big goofy grin plastered all over your  beautiful face all day.....

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2011/11/10/smiling-makes-you-look-two-years-younger_n_1085672.html?ref=canada-living&ir=Canada%20Living

and as for me....the more fun I have the luckier I get....