“choose your words
wisely for they can make your life fun, easy and abundant or hard and
Words seduce and words repel. Some words are
instantly seductive to others. Words like; love, peace, admire, adore, cherish,
sincere and appreciate, are just a few of the words that have an immediate
effect on others. Stringing words together can motive a country, such as…ask
not what your country can do for you
, or..I have a dream
. Words to a
life seducer are like paint to a painter, we can’t create or entice without
“the most seductive word to all
of us is our name”
Calling someone by
their name means we recognize them as a valuable human being and not a servant.
We love to hear our name, it validates us. It makes our communication personal.
You will never be a life seducer if you don’t use a person’s name at every
opportunity. Lucky for us, so many people wear name tags, sadly so many ignore
the opportunity to make a waitress or clerk feel human.
I wish I were better at remembering names, but I can say I’m
working on it. I understand just how important it is. I remember once, I was
phoning an airline and could not get through. It took two days to make contact.
By that time I was pretty annoyed. I let loose with a little tirade on the
representative. Half way through it suddenly dawned on me that wasn’t going to
I stopped and asked for the ladies name which she
said was Jennifer and I insisted she call me by my first name. 'Jennifer'
I said, 'I need to apologize I was just incredibly frustrated and I
realize it wasn’t your fault. You must be tired of hearing people like me blow
steam at you, again sorry.'
The phone went quiet and then she said….’yes
I’ve been getting yelled at all morning and it hasn’t been any fun since our
reservation system went down’.
I said, ‘well if its any consolation
Jennifer, it helps on this end of the line, that you have such a sweet voice‘.
Jennifer had just been totally seduced, she gave me a $200 rebate and a seat
upgrade for my inconvenience. In short order we were both laughing and joking
about dumb people and dumb airlines, it was like we were in on an inside joke.
But even more important than that, I got reinforced in my thick skull
that….words matter a lot (especially names)!
“don’t let anyone call you
Mr, Mrs, Miss, Madame or Sir”
There is a reason the police
deal with people by calling them Mr or Mrs. They are trained not to get
personal. If they allow the conversation to get personal they would be more
tempted to let you off of the speeding ticket. You don’t give friends tickets so
they keep as they say, a professional distance. You won’t seduce anyone who
greets you formally. You need their first name and you need to give them yours.
Make it personal as quick as you can.
TIP..... end all communications with their first name to make it more personal and memorable. E.g. Instead of saying....Mary it was great talking to you...say, It was great talking to you, lets do this again Mary! You will be surprised at how effective it is in helping you to be more persuasive.
“some words are
especially seductive in that they make others want to be of assistance to
That's a hard word for most to
ignore. Can you help me makes the other person feel powerful and triggers a
desire to exercise that power. Here is a powerful way to ask for help; I
don't know whether you have the power or authority but I could sure use some
....then give your request. You would be amazed at how many times
people will bend over backwards to fill your request!
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When you ask
for something just adding the word because followed by almost any kind of reason
has proven to be highly effective. Heck, it even works on kids. To say,
'Johnny go clean your room'
as every parent knows, goes in one ear out
the other faster than the speeed of light. However, saying..'Johnny please
clean your room because we have company coming'
, makes a surprising
difference in the response you will get. And for those of you who are managers
this works wonders on employees. You can thank me later....because it
"some people pay compliments like it was coming
straight out of their bank account"
Compliments are highly
seductive to women, men and children (I guess that covers everyone). It's hard
to resist a flatterer when we want to belive what they are saying is true. One
small well said compliment can turn a relationship back on course, soften a
boss's cold heart and as I found out get you an upgrade on an airline. The art
of the compliment once mastered is like a free pass to a seducer. Practice it as
often as the situation allows and most important of all....have fun!
favorite compliment is...God was just showing off when he made you.
layed it on an elderly lady clerk the other day and she giggled like a school
girl. She would have given me everything in the store if she could have. I got
something better, a feeling that I had really made someone's day brighter. As I
said, they don't have to believe it they just have to want to believe
"words are hollow without
Sincerity is the cement that strengthens your
words so they can stand up to the ravages of a sceptical world. Warmth and eye
contact mixed with the right words convey the sincerity that is so essential to
a good seducer. Oh, and mix in the right body language and a master seducer you
I love words. So this is a topic I could go
on and on about. However, the mark of a good writer they say is to know when to
shut up so I will.