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Anthing is possible if you can have fun doing it

Admit it, you’ve tried hard and difficult and how’s that worked for you so far? Hmmm, just as I suspected, all the old ‘nose to the grindstone’ got you was a flat face and a disappointing life. Me too, until I discovered this paradox….


“Success and happiness are inversely proportional to anything that is hard and difficult”

The really good news is: If life hasn’t worked out the way you dreamed it might, it is probably because you just aren’t having enough fun. Isn’t that beautiful? Oh, don’t worry, I can hear those brain cells rattling around in your skull, whispering to you…this guy is nuts! Well, that may be true but the paradox is not. By the time you are finished this book, I am more than confident you will be a convert to the fun easy way to abundance and happiness. So let’s begin.

“Our minds play tricks on us all of the time, so let’s give it some of it’s own medicine”

When things are going poorly, we feel overwhelmed and this is when the mind starts playing its tricks on you. It starts telling you things like; you are not smart enough or you just aren’t working hard enough. That’s stupid, because we both know you are a genius and hard work has nothing to do with success or happiness. (maybe you don’t know that yet, but stay tuned).

“Let the games begin”

One of my ‘aha moments’ came when I realized how much effort I will put into games. After a game of squash, I will come off the court drenched with sweat and on a high. I thought to myself, wow, it’s amazing how hard I will play. I get incredible fitness out of a game and I love it. Now, if you put me in an aerobics class or on a stationary bike, I doubt I could keep at it for very long. I just don’t have that kind of willpower (nor do I want to). But, make it a game and I will expend incredible effort. So being the bright and lazy guy that I am, I reasoned that if everything was a game or just plain fun, then logically anything would be possible.

“This is so profoundly simple, that it just makes me laugh”

Work is really good for those who want to make a modest living. So if that’s all you want, go to work and forget about this book. Now for those who want to do something exceptional, you need to have fun more often. Fun at work, fun at home, fun in your relationships and even fun in your spiritual life. And remember friends what the bumper sticker says…

“If work was that good for you, they wouldn’t have to pay you to do it”

Just because I say so, doesn’t mean it’s true! You’ve been habituated to the mantra… life is hard and difficult and then you die. So I expect to have a challenge proving to you that it isn’t so. But a challenge is nothing more than a game to me and I really like to play. So let the fun begin…

“Life must be lived as play” (Socrates)

I may be a nut but I’m not the only one! And it isn’t just Socrates that shares my point of view. Here’s what another great philosopher Hercalitus had to say….Man is most nearly himself when he achieves the seriousness of a child at play. Yeah, it’s true, those guys were around a couple of thousand years ago, but the billionaire Richard Branson says…We won’t take on any venture unless we can have fun doing it. So if it’s good enough for philosopher’s and billionaire’s, it’s good enough for me.

“You can only be profoundly absorbed in doing what you love”

And that’s going to be demonstrated to you in this book. I love my philosophy on life that….life was meant to be fun, easy and abundant. So I’m going to have a blast convincing you with the kind of book you’ve never encountered before.
“You’ll never be that good at seducing life until you master the art of fun”

Fun is not a trivial matter, it is the most important thing in the universe. Later you’ll learn that energy flows to fun and fun is the path of least resistance. Once you understand the power of fun, you will realize it’s like when you were in elementary school. Only the recess goes all day long with 15 minute work breaks twice a day.

“This won’t hurt a bit”

In keeping with my philosophy that things are better if you can have fun doing it, I promise a fun read but with a HUGE return on insights. Then perhaps one day you will become a fun guru like me and together we can start a new movement and make the world a better and happier place.

How Seducers Build Trust

“warriors and seducers understand the importance of trust. They just go about it differently.”


Warriors understand the time honoured practices such as; honour, truth and keeping your word, as well as your promises. Over time their efforts pay off and they gain the trust of others. This method works fine but as I said…it takes time (sometimes a heck of a lot of time).

“seducers are always looking for the path of least resistance”

Since seducers believe that there is always more than one answer, they are attuned to all possibilities. It is great fun for them to look beyond the obvious. They learn things that warriors don’t take time for, and that makes the process fun, easy and much quicker.   The great lesson for seducers is...

“trust doesn’t always have to be earned”

Sometimes trust is given freely just because we like someone. Studies have proven that we are always quicker to trust those we like. And likeability is a learned behaviour. To a seducer, it is just as important to be likeable as it is to be honourable and truthful.

“if you don’t trust and believe that life is on your side, it becomes hard and difficult”

It’s easy to be optimistic if you think that life is on your side. It’s that knowing, that somehow things will work out. And let’s get real here…we don’t trust negative people! We do tend to trust the optimistic soul that displays confidence in a good outcome for us. 

“passion is seductive”

The one quality essential for leadership is passion. It’s damn tough to give your trust to someone who is complacent. Throughout the ages, passionate leaders have swayed the public and gained their trust, whether they deserved it or not. If you are looking for a shortcut to trust, passion is it.

“seducers know that a spotlight shared or given away, will always find it‘s way back to the giver”

Warriors love the spotlight and see it as one of the rewards for their hard work. Seducers also love the spotlight, but understand the value of sharing or putting that spotlight on someone else. Singing someone else’s praises, especially to a third party is a real trust builder. How can you not trust someone who tells your boss or a friend about how valuable you are? If they tell you the same directly, it’s not near as effective. You may just think, they are making it up to gain something from you.

“trust given is trust returned”

When someone puts trust in us, it is near impossible to not trust them in return. Having someone believe in our potential or skills, creates a bond where trust is easy and natural. Being open and transparent with us, means that it’s ok to trust the other person. This is what reciprocity is all about.

“and the best I saved for the last”

The skill that breaks down resistance faster than the speed of light is humour. No sooner do we share a laugh then the walls of mistrust disappear. As an old sales manger once said to me…make ‘em laugh and their wallets will open. He could have said their hearts too, and he would have been right. Humour is so seductive that it needs it’s own chapter….

a thought about enthusiasm

God doesn't do ugly

“it is essential in the seduction of life to come to the realization that God doesn’t do ugly”


Take a moment now and ask yourself this question; what has your God created that is ugly?

“a weed is no more than a flower in disguise” (James Russell)

If we examine nature, we frequently use terms such as; inspiring, majestic, awesome and breathtaking. Have you ever stood looking out at the bountiful ocean or a snow capped mountain and thought to yourself; man this is ugly? Even when you look up at the skies and see a threatening storm, you can still find the beauty, if you look for it. And have you been witness to the northern lights…well, you get the picture.

“look deep into nature and then you will understand everything better” (Albert Einstein)

No, only man can create ugly. We can destroy what is naturally beautiful and do it with ease. We have the ability to rip up the wilderness, pollute the skies and water. We create ugly and not the universe.

“put a child in nature at play, and I challenge you to find even one iota of ugly, it’s impossible”

We also create another kind of ugly…people! It is through our eyes and minds that we create images of ugly people. If you believe in God, do you think that he would create an ugly child? Of course not, that would be our interpretation of his creation. It is our perceptions and words that do so much damage.

“we look for evidence of miracles, forgetting that the universe, puts them on display every single day” (unknown)

Only by loving life can life love us back. You can not hope to be loved back by our intended if you don’t show love first. When comes to us humans, real beauty comes from within. It doesn’t come from make up and jewelry. It is the twinkle in the eye and light within. To seduce you must see the beauty of the intended, whether it be humans or nature.

“everything is not as it seems, it is much more beautiful”

enjoy..

The #1 Seduction Skill

“it’s not who you know, it’s who you know that likes you”
Odds are you are going to be a flop in the game of life, if you don’t master this skill! If you want to have any hope in seducing life, this it. The good thing is that you can master it (if you haven’t already). Yes, of course I am talking about likeability.
“if you weren’t born beautiful and talented, life will still be kind to you, if you are highly likeable”

Being likeable having an unfair advantage over others. The likeable, tend to get the best jobs, have more friends and better relationships. And this doesn’t even scratch the surface of the benefits.

“ can you think of anyone who was ever seduced by an un-likeable person”

You might be convinced through logic and persuasion to do someone’s bidding but never will you be seduced if you don’t find them at likeable. Let me give you an example of the importance of being likeable. Awhile back, I read of a study that was done to determine the likeability of the U.S. Presidents. In every case since the advent of television, the candidate who was deemed by the public to be the most likeable person (by the public) won each election. How is that for powerful…

“it isn’t the choices we make about other people that makes life fun, easy and abundant, it’s the choices they make about us”

Need more convincing? Here are some more benefits that the likeable people get:

*Doctors give better care and more time to the patients they like (which of course means they live longer and experience less pain)

*They inspire others to give more

*They are viewed as being more trustworthy (a pretty good skill to have if you want to sell something)

* Likeable students get more attention and better grades

* We forgive them quicker for any misdeeds (I could use that one)

* They get better service and better deals from businesses.

“you don’t have to be likeable to succeed anymore than you have to be smart, but unless you have something against having an advantage, it sure helps”

There will always be the foolish few, who actually prefer to go it alone. Their attitude is…I don’t need other people to make it. I admire a person with principles but that is a dumb one. If others want to help me and make my life easier and more fun, I say welcome aboard friend.

“likeable people are happier than others, a coincidence…I think not”

Now that we have established that the most important skill in the seduction of life, is to likeable, the obvious question is how? I’ve done a ton of researching and applied my limited brain power to provide you with some answers. And that’s a whole lot of what this book is about.

So keep reading and I’ll share some fresh insights. I might even go into more depth than the ever popular method of ….buying the first round.